While going through an old photo album recently I came across the above photograph. The first thing I thought was “I was so skinny! And where is that bathing suit?” then I remembered that I threw it out, because I could no longer fit it (Insert Sad Face here). Then that got me thinking a lot. Which led to me writing this post.
Here are 5 Things I Would Tell my 20 Year Old Self:
1. Your Fast Food Habit Will Catch Up to You- When I was 20, I thought I could eat horribly all the time and never gain a pound. Which was true. Up until this past year where I wasn’t as active and my metabolism slowed down. I would love to sit my 20 year old self down and force feed her some broccoli, instead of all that Chickfila.
2. Not Everyone Has to Like You- At 20, I was really concerned about having as many friends as possible. I thought that all the friends I made would be people I’d still be close with today. Although I’ve made some amazing friends who I’m still super close with, looking back I would tell myself that its all about quality when it comes to friendships, not quantity.
3. Stop Spending Money Like a Trust Fund Baby- When I think about how much money I was spending when I was 20, it makes me cringe. Between the money from modeling and working at a bar, I was making decent money for a 20 year old and I didn’t save one red cent. At the time I thought it would never run out. I’d love to shake the crap out of my 20 year old self and make her open a savings account.
4. Quit Partying Like Everyday is Spring Break– When I was growing up, I was raised in an extremely conservative Christian family, so when I was 20 I kind of lost it and went off the deep end with all the going out and partying. It didn’t help that I was living in Fort Lauderdale (where the mentality truly is that everyday is a weekend day) 20 minutes from Miami. If I could talk to my 20 year old self, I’d explain to her about how life is all about balance. That she doesn’t need to go out every night for fear that she might miss out on something, because after awhile all those nights start to run together. All the faces start to look the same. All the songs are repeated, and you start to lose a sense of who you are as a person.
5. You’re Independent Attitude is Just Downright Selfish- At 20 years old, I was all about being independent. I wanted to do what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it. I would tell myself now, that there’s a huge difference between being independent and just being downright self absorbed. My so called independence ended hurting people I care about, as well as hurting myself.
I hope this makes you laugh. I also hope it makes you question what you would tell your 20 year old self. I’d love to hear what you guys come up with!
Happy Monday!
I just love the idea of this post! Wow, I needed to know A LOT then! Thanks for sharing…loved it!
Awww I’m glad you liked it! If you come up with any of the things you needed to know hit me back. I’d love to hear them!
Things I would tell my 20 year old self: 1: Eat better, skinny isn’t always going to be easy. 2. Leave unhealthy relationships as soon as you know they are unhealthy instead of waiting for other people to change.
I love your second one! Amen to that!!!!!
I love the second one, too!
Well I was 20 almost three years ago now, so it wasn’t a very long time ago. Nevertheless there are some things I regret and I wish I could tell my 20 year old self that those decisions are gonna cost you more than you can imagine.
Really nice post :). We should all remind ourselves every now and then by looking back like this how everything we do will affect us in the future.
I couldn’t agree with you more! I’m glad you enjoyed reading it!
#’s 2-5 I’d tell myself … #1 is still on the way… I can feel it!!!! WAAHH!
I’d also tell myself to listen more to my parents..not to what they didnt want me to do etc , but to their views, their opinions.. their past lives… I find I’ve wasted so much precious time having an attitude , that I never really got to know my parents… it’s never too late though I believe!
Also, I’d give myself a shake and tell myself the people I’m hanging out with are NOT cool…at all really.
Thanks for the post !
I like the listen to your parents one. I’ve realized that a lot recently too. I started catching myself having similar views to the ones they had and it’s always kind of daunting to realize maybe they were right. lol
I couldn’t come up with anything—I was too distracted by the picture.
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This definitely made me laugh. Mostly because that was me. For sure. Being humbled can be hilarious .
Lol yes it can. Its not always funny at the time, but its hilarious after!
I think about the only thing I have to say to my 20 year old self would be “You’ve got it ALL wrong.” So grateful to be far, far away from that!
Hhahaaha that’s awesome! It pretty much sums it all up.
Gorgeous photo of you! 🙂
Yes, it did make me laugh. I wish I could go back and do the same. Funny, sitting here eating broccoli as I’m reading this. What great fun this post is lady. XO
So humorous. Isn’t realization a wonderful thing? Sigh… ♥
Aww thank you! Funny, I’ve been trying to get to the grocery store all morning to grab some broccoli! Realization is always super funny, after the fact! Glad you enjoyed the post!
Yes, isn’t it though. 🙂 Well at least you LIKE broccoli. XO
Very true!
Thank you for liking my post. This is amazing and a lot of ‘food for thought’. I am 62 now and a great gramdma but I can think of things that I should of told myself at every year that has passed. I was pregnant with my first child when I was 20 and two days ago he became a grandpa for the second time-just three weeks after coming back from his third deployment to war. I am glad that what I wanted at twenty was changed by the hand of God-Couldn’t wait to get 21 so I could party legally- wow three weeks after I turned 21 I had my son. I like God’s plan much better. sorry this is so long-You are a very talented writer-God Bless you and look forward to reading your posts and following your blog.
Thank you! And Thanks for sharing! I think you are right about God’s plan being better. I can think of things that didn’t make sense to me a few years back that made my life so much better than I could have imagined. Congrats on the latest great grandbaby!
Thank You He’s a cutie-
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I think if I told my 20 year old self anything I would probably not be where I am today! So I choose to be silent 😉 Now if I knew she wouldn’t listen…the eating healthy thing is definitely top priority and she would also need to know it is not too late to find something she is actually interested in to follow for her career path because when she is 29 she will have to start all over…and lighten up…quit taking life so seriously! Otherwise though, I am glad I ended up where I have and I have a long way to go…maybe my 40 year old self will stop by for a visit soon to fill me in though.
hahaha very true. I definitely don’t regret how my life turned out, because you are absolutely right, it got me where I am today. And it made for some pretty hilarious stories. lol. Thanks for commenting!
Really like this. All things I’d probably remind my 20 year old self as well.
I’m glad you could relate!
I’d tell my 20 year old self to find a 20 year old girl named Danasia in Ft. Lauderdale. LOL, I kid. I actually was in Florida when I was 20 though.
I would probably tell myself that, like you, my eating habits will affect me in the end. Also, I would tell myself to stop putting yourself in debt and that it will catch up to you in the future (which in this case is me…). Lastly, I would probably say to stop chasing girls so much and focus on other things. All the girls you are going to date for the next 2 years are not worth it. Might as well take up a hobby and learn a language.
hahaha:) I think all of the things you listed are all things I personally could add to my list. My boyfriend always points out that if he could have back all the money he spent on dating in the past he’d be pretty well off. I can’t argue with that! lol
This I appreciate. I am turning twenty in a few weeks – nothing like a little guidance!
Happy Soon To Be Birthday! 20 is a great age! Be sure to enjoy it!
What a great post, I bet everyone can relate to this! It’s so hard when you are in your early 20’s, you want to be a grown up, and the law tells you that you are, but really we are still babies when we are 20. To be only 25 and see all of these behaviors and attitudes already, is really great. Your 30’s will be very successful if you keep this level headed approach 🙂
Aww thanks so much Ginger! You are so right about us being babies in our twenties. I’m convinced 30 is the new 21.. or at least that’s what I keep trying to convince myself of. lol
Being in my 30’s, I fully support your statement!
haha:)
Love, love, love #2. This is something I am still trying to learn and I have to remind myself daily. As for my 20 yr old self, I would say, “Gina, give yourself a break, quit trying to be perfect, and … just face it, you’re too short to wear capris.” Great post! as always. 🙂
~ Gina
Thanks Gina! And the capri thing had me literally laughing out loud!
Excellent post. I especially liked #5.
It takes time to know the difference between independent/selfish or compromise/settling and a number of other things that make life less black and white and more gray…I would have never believed how gray life actually is when I was twenty.
I completely understand that! When I was 20 I knew nothing about balance.
None of us did.
So true!
I love your thoughtful reflections… you are quite the philosopher!
Aww thanks! Your comment made me laugh because I know my parents and my boyfriend would beg to differ! lol
There’s nothing sexier than a woman with a great mind.
I look at it this way, The experiences you had back then because of the way you were helped make you the great person you are today.
I completely agree! But it’s nice to look back.
Not if you had the haircuts I had back then!
🙂 Lol
#4 and #5 (Y) … Very true. This post is quite thoughtful. The picture… damn! *scrolls up yet again*… Hotness!
#TT
AWw thanks!
you were rocking it at 20!! I bet you still look good, interesting post!
Aww thank you! And I wish I still look as good as I did then!
I would tell myself, quit starving yourself to be so thin. It’ll damage your body in the long run. Eating disorder for 13 yrs, just for attention.
That is a good one! I hope you’re doing well now:)
1.) You are not smarter than the Law
2.) They will eventually catch your ass
3.) Listen to your parents…they aren’t as stupid as you think they are
4.) Having sex 24/7 will come back to haunt you
5.) You are not having as much fun as you say you are
Actually there about 483 more things I would have told my young, egotistical, nothing can touch me self…but you get the idea.
Be encouraged!
Your list was great!
I really like the idea of that post. In my case I guess I would turn the things around a little.
1. Don’t be so serious all the time
2. Yet again, don’t share so much about yourself in order to find your way into friendships.
3. Be more outgoing!
Just like stephenedwards425, I guess we could all go on.
Thanks for the inspirational post. 😉
Hey Janet! Thanks! I like the 3 you listed. Your number two is one that I’m definitely guilty of.
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Hmm… here’s something I think everyday: I’d tell my really stupid 20 year-old self that boys don’t mean a think they say.
Great post!
Hhahaha thats a good one!
I wish I could talk to my 20 year old self as well. I made great money, spent it all. Partied instead of going to school…I also came from a conservative christian family, I can relate to everything our twenty year old self went through.
Hey! What would you tell your 20 year old self?
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I love it! 5 Things I’d tell my 20-year-old self:
1. SAVE some of that money from internships!
2. Don’t eat so many sweets! Root canals are NOT fun.
3. Slow down! You have time to figure some of that ‘life stuff’ out.
4. Stop breaking up with him! Y’all are getting married soon anyway!
5. Follow your dreams and not $$$$.
You’re an awesome blogger 🙂
-Lynn
Aww thanks Lynn! And I love the five you came up with! Especially #3!
I love this and you are rocking that bikini. I too would remind myself that not everyone has to like me and what they think of me is only a reflection of what they think of themselves, it has nothing to do with me. Ohh the things we know 15 years on.
Thanks Kate! When I was reading your about section, I smiled when I read that you are “very much in love with a sexy bald man”. I am as well! I’ve never actually seen my boyfriend with hair. lol
LOL me either. I have no idea what he looks like with out the beautiful shinny head. gotta love a man who shaves his head.
Amazing post! Thank you for your honesty.. this made me think about my 18 year old self …
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el
AWw thanks Elena!
Wow, great photo! I would tell my 20-year old self to believe in herself because she’s got all the strength she needs inside her and to trust her intuition at all times.
Thank you! And that’s a great one Sylvia!
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You looked absolutely phenomenal!! And still do. Wow.
I would tell myself things such as, stop studying so much, go out and have more fun, don’t go into certain majors, don’t feel bad about not dating because I’m not missing anything.
PhotoMom
Aww thank you! And Amen to the not feeling bad about not dating thing. I wish that was something I could have told myself.
This is you!? Wow girl. I don’t know what I would’ve said to your 20 year old self, but I know I woulda stuttered while sayin’ it. 🙂 😉
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Aww thanks so much! I’m glad you stopped by:)
This was such a good post. It made me think a lot.. there are plenty of things I could tell my 20 year old self, but my life really hasn’t changed much in the last 6 years. Maybe that’s what I’d tell myself, to make some kind of change. I toooootally agree about the fast-food thing lol.. my body is not that of a teen anymore, now I’m an adult with adult body issues. I can feel myself transitioning and it’s a little disconcerting. I’ve always eaten what I wanted but I think I would give myself some better habits.. and make myself love salad. 😉
Hey Emily! Thanks for commenting! I like how you put now being an adult with adult body issues. Do you ever just wake up sore for absolutely no reason? How are we already old enough for that! Just the other day we were at FCBC sleeping on dinky beds with no problem:)
LOL I know right? Yes I do, my bones are already getting a little creaky hehe. Yeah some of those beds were more like hammocks, the way they sagged in the middle lol. Good times.. 😉
Do you go back to fcbc alot? I’ve been trying to make it back there for years!
I’ve only counseled once in the last like 5 years but I’ve been back and forth a lot because Becky and Abby still go, usually for a few weeks. They’re crazy lol
Love this! And believe me, I had plenty to tell my 20 year old daughters when they were 20! Great post!
Awww I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for reading Tuck the Law Dog’s blog. I (Tuck’s Mom) enjoyed your
look back at 20. Looking back, I should have had more fun by going to more parties and spending more money! Didn’t have Chick-Fil-A where I grew up-but enjoyed eating lots of White Castles (sliders). Take care, y’all.
I’ve never had White Castle but I hear it is phenomenal!
Love this. Great advice 🙂
I would have to tell my 20 year old self to study harder!
LOL now that i think about it, I probably would have too!
I can relate to number 3!!! I think it was only just recently I stopped spending money like it grew on trees. I turn 25 soon and am thinking I should make a list like this and reflect! Great post.
Aww thanks! I can’t wait to read what you come up with:)
After reading this I am now sat at my desk pondering instead of working; which is much more fun.
I would tell my 20 year old self: 1) Let people go. If they don’t want to stay they’re not going to. 2) Beauty is everywhere, not just in the big lights, and 3) Don’t listen to your art lecturers as if they are god-like, fonts-of-all knowledge – they are only people too. I had a really bad experience doing my masters and it sent me hurteling into a shell for three years, from which I am only just emerging.
I love this post. I work with 16-19 year olds at the moment and I often try to give them advice (as I’m a welfare officer) and one thing I would know sat in front of my 20 year old self… That I wasn’t going to listen to a word of it 🙂
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That’s all pretty good advice!
Thanks!
Can you FWD this EXACT list on to my 20-year-old self. She could totally use it. 24-year-old me should have a look at it too.
You are so hot now, and then. Skinny isn’t always what “hot” and “sexy” are about. But as a gal who used to eat like a horse, and never gain and pound and have to drink ensure to gain lbs (yeah, I was one of those “i’m so skinny it’s a problem” girls) to someone who CANNOT for the life of me shake the 20 lbs i gained since i got married (and moved within a stone’s throw of a mcdonald’s and got sick and lost my metabolism and on and on with the excuses).
none of my clothes fit now and it’s makes me sad. i wonder how the hell i used to have SO MUCH money to go out and party all the time. in a new outfit every time too! what’s up with that?!?!
i feel like i burned fast and white hot bright back in my early 20’s and while having a healthier liver and savings account may feel good now – nothing, and i mean NOTHING, makes up for the awesome, outrageous, wacky memories i made.
life only comes around once. i say better to get the wild out while you’re young so when it’s time to settle down your old bones are grateful and tired. at least that’s how i feel on the matter.
awesome post =)
Hey Rose!
I’m glad you enjoyed this post! I completely agree with you about getting the wild out when youre young! Hope you’re doing well!
I’m turning twenty in 3 months – this will be helpful. Incidentally, I forced my fast food and soda intake down to a minimum this past week because my metabolism is ALREADY changing. Blahhh. Anywho – great post. 😉
At least youre starting to eat right now girl:) glad you liked my post. Come back and visit soon!
skinny isnt about being sexy or beautiful its just you taking care of yourself as you grow to fit you own age…and yes didnt we just waste money on partying as if it was the end of the world..i look back and ask myself where did alltha money go…Thanx a lot for sharing..you are a star….
You are too kind! I’m glad you enjoyed the post! We learn best through trial and error don’t we? 🙂
This is perfect. I love it, especially #2…
Omg! Miss Molly! Girl how are you?!? Ill be emailing you today so you can catch me up on everything!